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“You don’t have to have everything together to make a difference to people’s lives. You just have to share your brokenness.”

So says Rob Parsons, author, public speaker, and founder of the charity Care For the Family.

Rob Parsons OBE (credit quotestemple.com)

Rob Parsons OBE (credit quotestemple.com)

Most people don’t want answers,” says Rob. “They can find their own answers. They just want to know they’re not alone.

Care For the Family is a national charity which aims to promote strong family life and to help those who face family difficulties. And of all the charities I support, this is the one charity where, when you receive letters whose ultimate purpose is to ask you for more money, the letters are always worth reading for their own sake – even if you are most definitely not in a mood to be asked for more money. Rob’s letters are always funny, touching, moving. His letters are a gift in themselves.

The son of a Royal Mail postman and an office cleaner, Rob says that when he received his OBE from the Queen he thought of saying, “My dad used to deliver letters for you.”

Rob is a perfect example of someone who has built his success on vulnerability. Over the years he has shared many of the joys and sorrows of his own family life; the mortification, the pain, the insecurity, the sense of failure. I feel I know his wife Diane, and his son Lloyd and daughter Katie almost as well as Rob himself. The stories he shares often amaze me; they always touch a nerve of truth. I trust that he shares nothing without permission! And all I can say of Lloyd is that if I were to meet him in person, I would think, Your reputation precedes you, Lloyd.

I have been listening to Rob, and reading his books, for several years now. When I first heard him speak my children were young. When he spoke about teenagers, I thought, “Oh, I don’t have to worry about this teenage stuff – that’s years away.”

Now, however, I listen to Rob talking about teenagers, as I did last Tuesday evening in Birmingham, and think, “Yes. This is true. I have said those things. I do those things. That is what happens. That is what they do. That is how I feel about it.”

Rob says he built Care for the Family on vulnerability. “That is part of my story.”

On several occasions over the last few months I have commented on blogs or responded to online posts or newspaper articles by referring back to Rob Parsons, and what I have heard him say, and what I have read in his books.

This is because the same issue comes up again and again. Either people feel they never knew their father well when they were growing up; or fathers wish they had spent more time with their children when they were young.

On each occasion I have referred to Rob Parsons, and what he says about fathers. The important thing is to spend ordinary time with your children, he says. That is the time that really counts. Not the time you spend with them on expensive holidays you took them on because you worked “all the hours God sends” all year and often into the evenings and Saturdays, earning money to pay for the expensive holiday.

That expensive holiday will evaporate. Just being there, in ordinary time. So that you are around to listen, and to understand, and to chat, and to know things about your children. That is the most important message to all fathers.

Rob trained as a lawyer, but he then became a public speaker and writer. He could well be a stand-up comic – but to that gift he adds poignancy, sadness, and ultimately a powerful spiritual message.

Rob is a man who inspires, moves, and warns.

I commend him to you. If you haven’t read any of his books, please do.

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Comments on: "People of Inspiration Part 4 – Rob Parsons, Gifted Communicator Who Inspires, Moves and Warns" (8)

  1. It touches me a great deal when talking about fathers who can give their time to their children,my father was all that, today i know the bible because of him.even if his nolonger alive but his legacy lives forever inmy life.

  2. Sheila, I rarely have time to read your blog however today I made the time and echo your sentiments entirely. He’s inspirational.

    • Thank you Nina for reading and commenting on this one! As I think about Rob and his message, these words come to me “He is a prophet for our generation”. And I know that Rob himself would crack a joke, tell a story against himself, in response to that. Yet I believe it is true.

  3. Wow, what a heartfelt article, thanks! I can actually relate to the mention of fathers and how important they are to their children. My husband is one of these examples. He works long hours and rarely sees our daughter while he’s on shift, but then he has 2-4 days off each week so he can make up his time with her. Fortunately for us, he understands the importance of his role within the family. I hope other dads can take the meaning from this message.

    • Thank you for your comment. I think, too, that it is so important for each of us to have positive memories of our fathers when we grow up; memories we can look back on, which are enriching to our lives. I dedicated my novel “Mystical Circles” to the memory of my father because he took such a strong interest in my writing.

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